Do you ever feel like you just can’t stop crying? Like no matter what you do you just want to sob… This past weekend I was so emotional! I was a big ball of tears and no matter what I did I just wanted to cry more! I cried in front of my hubby and then in front of my extended family and friends because I couldn’t hold it in. Did I really have a reason to cry? Stressed? Tired? Busy? Emotional? PMS? Could have been anything that started it… but it went from being stressed cause I wanted to finish everything, to upset because it was my late grandmothers birthday to upset because my To Do list (yes I will blog about that soon) is bigger than I want it to be.
I like to believe that I am not the only woman out there who has a crazy emotional side. My husband Jason gets worried sometimes because I can get so emotional, and sometimes about nothing.
I am just going to put it out there… and I really hope that if you do read this you will help me out. Am I the only woman out there who just gets crazy emotional can’t stop crying sometimes? Also all you men out there how do you handle your wives, sisters, mothers and girlfriends when/if they can’t stop crying for no reason?
Please help me out on this one….
You are not the only one. You cry because there is a reason, or sometimes many reasons. You need to let it out (for a short moment). I still do recommend to let it out only at home (i guess with your hubby)– so that you do not look emotionally unstable.
Afterwards you need to identify what makes you feel this way, what you can change. Take the time to be alone and see it.
having a to-do list is amazing not to forget anything and make you feel in control and organized in your time, money, energy and saying no when it does not fit in your schedule or your emotional schedule!
Us, women, unfortunately, we also need to look at our hormonal calendar, we know we can be on our nerves those days, and so i slow down. it is only few days a month.
When things go out of hand, do what makes you feel pretty and good inside (go for pedi-mani, take a bath, hand out w ur friends, go on date with ur hubby… whatever makes u happy).
it is very normal!
Hey Nadia
You're not alone, we all have those days… sorry to hear that you are sad about things. And even if you don't really know what exactly you are sad about, its ok, its probably everything rolled into one and you are just letting it out now. Trust me, we all have these moments!!!
I'm here for you if you want to talk about anything. Seriously, I am a phone call away. I know Jason is awesome and its great that you can be so honest with eachother. But if you ever just need a girl to vent with, I am here for you.
xoxo
The same way rain cleanses the streets, crying cleanses the soul. It's good to cry; even when you don't really know what it is all about. Sometimes you feel overwhelmed, and will be able to catch up with a good cry.
You'll finish everything when the time is right to finish everything. don't force what needs to be done, it will happen when it's time to be done. Our whole lives are one big to-do list. But you will realize that our own to-do lists, will start to have more "spend time with so and so", and less "finish planting the garden, or finishing the backyard". One thing at a time will get everything done. Don't look at the whole list, look at it as a puzzle, piece by piece, little by little, it will get put together, and the outcome will be a great masterpiece, and the overwhelming feeling will be long gone.
So lean on Jay, let him make fun of you for Crying, and laugh at your own overwhelming feeling of inadequacy, because we all have them at one time or another, and what will get you through it will be the knowledge that Whatever God puts you through, He will get you through.
Stay positive, keep your head high, and know that people are proud, amazed, and look up to what you have accomplished so far, and look forward to what you will be able to accomplish!!
Your soon to be favorite photog…. 😀
Actually, scientists have found that stress hormones are released in tears, so… for whatever reason, sometimes a good cry is exactly what you need to let it out and feel better.
The last time I was that emotional was actually after I got married and after I had my first child. I say it's all the emotion after big events in your life.. The uncertainty if I can handle allllll the responsibilities attached to being married and to keeping another human being (a baby) alive and healthy and happy. New chores.. cooking , cleaning,gardening, working, taking care of everyone, everything except yourself. When we were young, it was all "me, me, me" and after marriage, it becomes "us, us, us" then after the kids, it becomes "them, them, them". We lose ourselves.. Ask your mom, she totally understands where you are at right now.
Share with her your feelings.. she's been through it all and more.
I believe, the best remedy is to cry, cry cry… then take a deep breath, step back and try o understand what triggered it..and know that tomorrow is another day… Whatever can't be accomplished today, will be accomplished tomorrow or the next day… You are only human,,, super women exist only on TV.
regards
Trust me you're not at all alone on that one! Sometimes we stay "strong" for a long period of time that we don't even take the time to talk about things or just focus on our needs so what happens is that it just blows up in tears.
Unfortunately, as woman we handle our emotions a little differently then men so you can't be too hard on yourself. I have been in the exact same situation where I've started to cry for no reason and my bf looks at me and has no clue what to do. You just have to go with it and accept that you're human like everyone else and you will break down from time to time and that's ok. It happens to the best of us even if we don't want it to.
Thank you all so much for your comments here and on Facebook and to my email! It really made me realize that I AM normal and just emotional sometimes… On that note, I am feeling better. My hubby was great and took care of all the housework and really made my list a lot shorter. My family is also fantastic and supportive!
Thanks!
Nadia, you're normal. Happens to me too. The steam must come out one way or the other!
Your hubby's support is essential during those times. Love, Nelly
p.S.: Pregnancy does wonders to stabilize your mood;)